Sex and relationships

Sex is everywhere, and yet dealing with it in an adult way seems impossible

Our lives are fraught with assumptions about who we are supposed to be sexually, and what constitutes a meaningful relationship. And, if we’re not in a relationship or having sex at all, there must be something wrong with us.

As more people are reaching out, exploring, and deepening their sexual lives – I call this the ‘Fifty Shades Generation’ (*) – the lack of decent guidance in the media, coupled with its moralising and judgmentalism, means that it can feel very isolating to experience a sexual problem, a sudden lack of confidence, or encounter a new aspect of your sexual identity, and not know where to take it.

‘Am I allowed to talk to you about this?’

I’ve had a number of people ask me if they are ‘allowed’ to bring sex-related material into the therapy room. I can assure you – you are. I will work with you to explore what’s going on and see if I can make things feel easier to manage. If there are two of you, please go here.

A note on sex therapy specifically

If you have a very specifically physical problem (what some people might call ‘plumbing’) and are looking specifically for a physical solution, I can point you in the direction of a sex therapist who can help.

You may find these articles of interest:

Sex Addiction – What it isn’t

So you don’t enjoy penis-in-vagina sex? You’re not alone

Some Myths and Half Truths about Orgasm

Contact me here.

 

(*) I’m very well aware of the problematic nature of Fifty Shades of Grey in terms of how kink is presented. However, it also seems to have given a large number of people permission to explore themselves who may not have otherwise done so. The enormous response to the film (released in February 2015) has brought many of the debates about kink into the mainstream.